Examine Your Life
Question 50: Why do I feel inferior to others?

   Grant Jackson :
When you have reached the point of adhesion to 'The Creator' and you know who you really are, that you are no one , nothing, not important, at times you dont exist, you realise why you feel inferior to others, because Hashem is all mighty , and you are nothing!

   Rabbi Schwartz : 
Feeling inferior to others is our mistake. Likewise, feeling superior to others is our mistake. Every living person is a slice of Hashem, placed in this world to undergo challenges and tests that rocket him to his highest potential. The Rambam writes, “Every one of us can be as great as our great teacher, Moshe.”*  Just as Moshe lived his life doing the best he could do, so we may live our lives, doing the best we can do. This idea makes us all equal. 

Why then do we feel inferior to some others? The answer is that we are the victims of living in a physical world. Instead of viewing life as the Torah views life, we allow the superficial sheen of our environment to impress and belittle us. We learn to feel insignificant next to the wise, the powerful and the wealthy - as if we were nothing. 

This material perspective however, distorts reality. We may be doing so much more than those on whom public attention shines, yet we feel that we are less. Moreover, we are certain that public figures are happier than us, for we see them only from the outside – their own worries and frustrations they hide from us. 

Our solution then is to train our minds to see life through the Torah’s eyes. If we are doing, then we are succeeding. If we are learning, then we are growing. If we are focused on our life purpose, then we are moving closer to it. 
And if we feel that we need to compete, let us compete with ourselves. Let us ask ourselves, “Am I better than I was last year, last month, last week?” In this way we will live our lives in the best possible way, and reach our true greatness.

* Rambam - Hilchos Teshuva 5.2

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