|Examine Your Life
Question 35: Why do bad things happen to me, and how should I respond to them?
Ivan Sacks :
view all situations and experiences as opportunities and blessings.
This viewing may come across as being naive but how we receive all our
situations it totally up to us. To recognize all that happens to us as
a test and that these tests are either blessings and of opportunities
helps us to eliminate the word bad which in my view is simply an
interpretation of the test.
Tests happen from Hashem and they help
us to grow. We grow by responding and not by reacting. We must view all
tests as blessings and opportunities to grow.
Rabbi Schwartz :
things happen to us through the silly mistakes we make. These mistakes
are called silly because we really do know better. Under the tumult and
noise, we understand how we should have behaved. But, with laziness of
thought, indulging our lowest urges and simple stubbornness, we allow
ourselves to make such mistakes.
Even where we can't trace bad
things to bad actions, our lack of performing good actions or of
learning what we should be learning, could be what brought on such
In any case, it helps us best to realize that bad
things happen, directly and indirectly, because of how we have been
living and continue to live our lives. This adds a flavor and a taste
to the unpleasant and painful experiences we suffer.
though, is not to get angry. That only makes things worse. Since we
manage our own lives, we need to take credit for all we do and the
consequences that result from our decisions. Then, as a next step, we
need to make such bad things our teachers, teachers that guide us away
from our silliness, and towards more powerful, creative and productive
Another effect of bad things is the incredible frustration
they stir within us, a frustration that drives us crazy. However, this
too we can use for our benefit. Our every frustration can be the charge
that motivates us towards self-improvement and growth. Let us turn the
bad, the unpleasant and painful, into a means that helps us become
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