|Examine Your Life
Question 17: How do I stay happy?
Happiness is a state of mind. So long as I am in control of my emotions, I can control whether I'm happy.
choosing to be happy. Weighing the options of what to do or not to do
and how to do it with clarity of thought. Better choices are made with
a clear mind with the results having consequences of happiness. To live
a directed purposeful life, is the choice of one being happy and
maintaining the clarity of mind that enables us to make good choices
that increase the satisfaction in life.
I stay happy by staying in the present as much as possible and by being happy with my lot in the present moment.
My constant is knowing that Hashem is with me always and that the future will always be good even if I have challenges.
happy, is being grateful for all the wonderful things in life Hashem
has brought to you, being focused on the 'now' not worrying about what
the future brings, if you believe that you have everything in life,
then you will be happy, and 'stay happy'
myself, releasing the quest for happiness, has increased it. I just
gave up on looking, and settled into the present moment, as much as I
can. its def. very quiet, mundane, and yet peaceful. with no
expectations, there is no disappointment. giving service to Hashem
through life in the mundane, everyday world has become my foundation,
and all pursuits have been released.
Rabbi Schwartz :
Seemingly, there are two keys to staying happy, (1) attitude, and (2) keeping active.
Rabbi Simcha Zissel of Kelm* writes that people on their way to a
wedding, even if the trip is not too comfortable, are excited and
happy. This should be all of us. We are here on an adventure, heading
towards a great, happy destination, our future in this world, and more
so, in the world to come. Moreover, we enjoy Hashem's love and
protection at all times. While our life challenges may be tough, still
they are all for the good, helping us to grow and reach towards our
true potential. Thus life is always, all fine.
active, "in the flow", is part of having the right attitude. If our
time here is so valuable, if we have so much to accomplish, then we
must stay busy. We must engage our bodies, thoughts and feelings in
Note, that purposeful relaxing is also
called doing. Relaxing recharges us for our next project, and is
certainly a part of our life. The same is true for thinking - our best
accomplishments come only when we first think them through. Finally,
most important of all, is praying - whenever, any type of uncertainty
or problem faces us, we must turn to Hashem for direction and help;
this may just be the most productive activity of them all, and
certainly helps us to stay happy.
* Chochma v'Mussar
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