Examine Your Life
Question Thirteen :  What's wrong with getting angry?

   Roy :
Anger is directly related to EGO, when things do not go our way or we cannot control people or outcomes, we may want to become Angry.

If we realise that Hashem controls all things and we realise we are not the main show we will be able to bring Humility into our mind, lives and actions.

Anger is a very dangerous, anger can take us out of this world and cause damage to our own souls, relationships with our fellow man and Hashem.

   Grant :
By Getting Angry, Anger justs destroys, our soul and poisons our mind, in a very negative way, it doesn't accomplish anything at all, but negativity, and if we get angry at other people, its shows how unhappy we are in our lives, because we are not in control.

   Rabbi Schwartz :
Our lives are a struggle between our lowest urges, and our highest aspirations - between being a baby and an adult. A baby thinks only of himself. As such, he believes that the whole world exists only for him, and if something doesn't go his way, he cries or even throws a tantrum. We too, often indulge in this attitude. If life clashes with our expectations or people let us down, we cry out, sulk or silently suffer a smoldering anger.

However, when we act as true adults, we realize that the world revolves around Hashem's Torah, Hashem's plans and not our illusions. Also, we understand that if life doesn't fulfill our expectations, the fault must lie with us.

The disappointments we suffer are a call to improve on our actions, our words and even our thoughts. With this mindset, our defeats will stop angering and upsetting us. Rather they will become the gift that helps us grow only the greater.

Our sages teach that we should train our tongues to say, "All that Hashem does, He does for the good."* Repeating this teaching in tough situations, helps us reach for our highest aspirations, as well as gaining a victory over our lowest urges.

* Brochos 60b

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