Avraham Tzvi Schwartz
Respect others and they will respect
you. Love others and they will love you.
But we have problems with this
Others don’t always
return our kindness, our affection.
This leaves us feeling worse
about ourselves – a little put-down, a little inferior.
We need two ideas here:
Many people don’t
know how to be polite, considerate – they don’t
realize that they could, should, pretend a concern for others.
Therefore, they throw our friendliness, our compliment, back into our
faces – and hurt us. Still, mostly, they do this only from
What helps more than being
nice to others, is thinking nice thoughts about them. Sometimes, it
pays to greet people in a brisk way. Sometimes, it even pays not to
greet them at all. Then, we may compensate this “lack of
regard” with a kind thought. As we move away, we could say to
ourselves, “I love him or her – together with all
the people in my world.”