Happy events make us
this a simple idea? No,
not at all.
Happy events make for
and happy thoughts
make us happy. We anticipate something special, something glorious,
exciting and funny, and we are happy. Conversely, we do not think
are sad, bad, scary, and we are not unhappy.
Accordingly, we should
not need happy
events to make us
happy. We should just think happy thoughts. To rely on happy events is
Still, to be happy
help is something most of
us don't know how to do. Unhappy events do sadden us. We must know
we can change ourselves, we can work on and improve ourselves. And in
on ourselves, and in improving our ability to think happy thoughts, we
find a special key to happiness.
Here is a formula to
think over: Love
+ Fear = Happiness.
Our real happiness comes
our best -- doing,
thinking, saying all we can. But, together with doing, is a
"feeling", an "emotion" -- an attitude that accompanies us
along the way. Which attitude should we adopt as we strive to do our
Seemingly, the best
choice is love.
To do with love is to do
more. To do with love is to give more -- more of ourselves, more of our
more of our hopes.
But to live only with
love is like
walking a tightrope -- we
may easily fall from it. For when we act with love, we are tempted to
"Surely I have proved myself; surely, I have shown my dedication -- now
This however, is a
mistake. For, in
truth, not from love do
we speak these words, but from laziness -- from a desire to rest, to
from a wish to sit amongst the butterflies and do nothing.
So, we need another
attitude. This is fear.
We must be afraid that our friend, our lover, will tire of us, will
from us. Such a fear is a good fear, a healthy fear. It leads us to try
to do more, to be more. And together with love, it can lead us to every
happiness and success.
Look at the children
playing in the
garden. Doesn't this
give you pleasure? Surely, you can delight in their beauty, their
Surely, you can enjoy their laughter, their fun?
Look at old people,
resting in their
places. See worn hands
resting on shining walking sticks. See lived-in faces with deep, warm
staring into the distance, gazing into an uncertain future. Surely, you
hug such a person?
So far, the exercise has
Now, let's take it one
Start to look at all
people in a new
way, in a happy way.
Some of them dress well, others are a little shabby -- some are
others are quite plain -- some are easy to talk to, others are distant.
we can enjoy them all. We can take pleasure in their presence. We can
as our friends, and wish them happiness and success.
We like wheels. Whether
skateboards or sports cars,
bikes or limousines, they attract our pleasure, our interest, our
Why do they so appeal to us?
One idea is that we
enjoy the thought
of small actions
producing powerful reactions. Press your foot lightly on the gas, and
surges forward, with muscle, with a roar.
More important though,
is that this
pleasure points us
towards a potential that is especially ours. This is our ability to
wheels of the universe, to bring down the rains, to draw health,
excitement and happiness into our lives. This power Hashem plants
within us. It
is a power He wants us to realize, to possess. How may we achieve this
muscle? By being all that we can be. By doing all that we can do.
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