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Avraham Tzvi Schwartz
enough to do acts
of kindness with others, one must
act kindly with one’s family as well. Who then should the
generous man begin
with, if not his wife?
This is especially important for another reason. She, our Rabbis teach
every husband’s source of prosperity and happiness.
who finds a wife, finds goodness; he
will receive Hashem’s good favor. (Mishle 18.22)
Chanilai said: A man who has no wife lives without joy,
and without goodness.
the West they say: He dwells without Torah
and without a wall.
bar Ulla said: He dwells without peace.
Elazar said: A man who has no wife is no man.
Love and Honor
Chelbo said, “A man should
always treat his wife with respect, for
blessing only enters his house on her account.
Similarly Rava told the
people of Mechuza,
“Honor your wives, that you may
become rich.” (Bava
Avira taught, at times
in Rav Ami’s name, and at times in Rav Assi’s
name: A person should eat and drink at a level less than he can afford,
and acquire a home according to what he can afford
and honor his wife and children more than he can afford; for they
while he depends on the One who created the world with His word. (Chulin 84b)
Yitzchak taught: One who has lived with his wife for a time, even if he
becomes poor, she will not reject him. “When he had
wealth,” she will say, “he
fed and clothed me, therefore I will not leave him.”
a prostitute, when he gives her gifts she is appreciative, but
when he doesn’t give her gifts, she doesn’t know
(Shmos Raba 32.5)
Just as honoring
brings to wealth, so a lack of
honor has the opposite effect.
taught: One who
by his wife,
comes to poverty.
cursed by his
wife,” said Rava, “refers to a case where he
buy her jewelry; this however, is only true where he can afford to buy
Rava bar Rav
Ada said in
of Rav: One who marries
a woman for her money,
will have ill-bred children ...
The Gemara asks:
Maybe at least, he will enjoy the money?
answers, “within a month he will squander it all.”
who hopes for his wife’s earnings ... sees no blessing.
however, refers to one who sends his wife to the market with a scale.
Peace and Harmony
The man who together
his wife, fulfills his
duties to his family and society, achieves a harmony and peace that
Rabbis taught: One who loves his wife
and honors her more than himself, who guides his children along the
and marries them when they reach maturity – of him the verse
says, “Know that
there will be peace in your tent.” (Iyov 5.24). (Yevamos
taught: One who loves
his neighbors and helps his relatives, who
marries off his niece and lends money to a man in distress –
of him the verse
says, “Then you will call, and Hashem will answer;
you will cry out, and He will respond... (Yeshayahu
While this chapter
speaks to men,
most of what it says applies
equally to women. For the woman who builds up her husband, who gives
esteem and a sense of worth, enjoys a wondrous life. With her input,
she builds a grand palace of a home; as the verse teaches:
wisdom of the woman builds
her home.” (Mishle
Also, she wins
the trust of
husband, which brings still
more riches into their home:
“When her husband trusts her
with his heart, [their home] lacks no