"That's it! I've had it! I am fed up with my bad middos (character traits). I am going to do something about them. From this moment onward, I will never become angry again."
Avi's mother smiles warmly.
"That is very admirable, Avi dear. However, do you think it is really practical? A bad middah has become habitual. Bad habits do not vanish overnight. They take time to break."
"You're right, Imma. What shall I do? I want so badly to get rid of this anger."
"Take a tip from the nozir, Avi. The nozir took a vow to refrain from wine products, haircuts, and tomei mes (impurity from contact with a dead body). The Sforno (Bamidbar 6:2) explains that as a result of this, he was able to control his desires and break his habit of indulgence in worldly pleasures."
"Imma, there are so many worldly pleasures besides wine and haircuts. How would these small gestures help him?"
"Excellent question, Avi. The Sforno continues. The nozir should not go to an extreme by fasting and separating himself from the pleasures of eating completely. That would weaken his body, and he would not be able to serve Hashem. Rather, refraining from just wine will reduce his desires considerably, and leave him strong to serve The Creator."
"The nozir cut back a little and learned how to control himself. That gave him the strength to continue."
"Precisely, Avi. That is what you should do. Choose one half-hour of the day when you will not become angry. You can manage that. It will give you the skill and confidence you need to expand that time period. Pretty soon you will be calm, cool, and collected all day."
"B'ezrat Hashem, Imma."
Kinderlach . . .
Now is the time to learn to control yourselves. Develop good habits. Eat one less piece of candy. Wear those old shoes that are still in good condition. Eat Imma's dinner even if it is not your favorite food. Let someone go before you in line. Give up your comfortable seat on the bus. These are all small sacrifices. They lead to big things. Good middos. Don't be a slave to the pleasures of the world. Control yourself.
"Good morning Chaim, my wonderful chavrusa (study partner). How are you this morning?"
"Fantastic, Simcha. How are you?"
"I am feeling great, ready to begin a productive morning of learning. What would you like to do first - review yesterday's Gemora, or learn today's new Gemora?"
"We worked hard on the old Gemora yesterday and understood it well. Why review it?"
"It is true that we understood it, Chaim. However, our sages (Bamidbar Rabba 13) say that there are 70 facets to the Torah. We have only seen one. Every review brings a new understanding. Let us review first."
"That is a beautiful thought, Simcha. I believe that we see that idea expressed in this week's parasha."
"At the end of the parasha, the Torah lists the Korbonos of the Nesiim (offerings of the Princes of the Tribes of Israel) at the inauguration of the Mishkan. There were twelve Nesiim, and each one brought his own set of korbonos."
"Does the Torah list all of them?"
"Yes, each and every one."
"They must have all brought different korbonos. We know that the Torah does not waste even one word. If they were the same, the Torah could have stated, 'This is the korbon that all twelve Nesiim brought.'"
"That is a possibility, Simcha; however the Torah lists all twelve - 72 verses in total - even though they are exactly the same."
"Hmmm. There must be some deep meaning here, Chaim."
"There is a very deep meaning. Look in the Medrash Rabba. Each Nasi had a completely different kavannah (intended purpose) for his set of korbonos. For example - the first Nasi was Nachshon ben Aminadav, Prince of the Tribe of Yehuda. The Royal Dynasty of Dovid HaMelech descended from his tribe. Therefore, he offered his korbonos on behalf of the Kingship. Nesanel ben Tsuar, Prince of the Tribe of Yissacher brought his korbonos on the second day. His tribe loved Torah more than any other; therefore he brought his korbonos for the sake of Torah learning."
"That is fascinating, Chaim."
"Take a look at the Medrash yourself, Simcha. You will see how it describes each item if the korbon - silver plate, censure, grain, gold spoon, cows, sheep, and goats, in detail with its kavannah."
"Wonderful. I think I see your point, Chaim. By reviewing each set of korbonos twelve times, each one with its own meaning, the Torah is showing that reviewing your learning brings out new meanings."
"And I see your point, Simcha. We should review yesterday's Gemora. We will surely see chiddushim (new Torah thoughts)."
Kinderlach . . .
Shavuous is coming in two days. It is the day that the Torah was given on Har Sinai. We know that the words of Hashem's Torah are sweeter than honey, as Dovid HaMelech states in Tehillim (19:11). When do we taste this sweetness? After review. When we learn a Gemora the first time, we are working hard to understand the p'shat (simple meaning). The review goes a little easier, and we begin to see things that we missed the first time. Another review reveals even more of the Torah's secrets. We begin to make connections between different Gemoras. Each successive review brings a deeper and more thorough understanding. Quite simply, when you review something you know it better. However, Torah is min HaShomayim (from Heaven). It is the word of Hashem. It is completely different from any other subject of study. When you show Hashem that you love His Torah by reviewing it over and over again, He gives you special Siyata Di'shmaya (Heavenly Assistance) in your learning. Your knowledge and understanding increases exponentially - out of proportion to the effort that you put in. You receive Heavenly Wisdom. Put all of your koach (strength) into your learning and reviewing this Shavuous, kinderlach. May you all merit tasting the sweet honey of the words of Torah.
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