To My Dearest One,
This letter was written straight from the heart in the fervent
hope that it will enter your heart. It is meant to inspire, uplift,
and make us AWARE ("L'orrer") of what is desired and
requested of us in these very trying times.
There are so many people who need salvation. We live in a time
described by our sages as "chevlei moshiach" - the birth
pangs of the Messiah. The purpose of this booklet is to suggest
how to be fully prepared for the salvation which will indeed come,
and very quickly and unexpectedly. Although we may not calculate
the actual time, we are surely required to hasten it through our
We all pray, we all say Psalms fervently and give sizable amounts
of charity, even in this time of financial difficulties. Yet,
we still haven't been able to hasten the redemption. The following
may shed some light on the situation.
Firstly, we have no way of knowing how much purpose is really
coming from our prayers. There is no prayer that goes unanswered.
Secondly, read the following to see how we can be merit to be
In a town lived many different people, each with his own problems.
Some had difficulty earning a living. Some were sick, their bodies
racked in constant pain. Others were plagued with even more heart-rending
One day, the town crier announced the King's imminent arrival.
He advised the townsfolk to prepare themselves for His Royal Highness,
promising that upon the King's arrival, their wishes would be
granted. The townsfolk were overwhelmed with joy. "The King
will grant our wishes and put an end to our miseries," they
cried, and the vast majority of them set to work preparing for
the arrival of His Royal Highness. Several days later, the town
crier announced that the King was postponing his visit, until
everyone in the town would fully comprehend the glorious stature
of the King and prepare accordingly. What a disappointment for
all the townsfolk! They were expecting an instant end to all their
misery. Now, who knew when the King would appear!
Wouldn't it be in place for the townsfolk to remonstrate each
other, each urging his friends and neighbors to engage in preparations
for the King? Would that be considered mixing into his neighbors
affairs? You be the judge.
Of course, we are all thankful for all the simchos we merit to,
but that doesn't mitigate the tragedies that have befallen so
many families - young and old. Our tears of anguish are being
heard in the heavens. As a matter of fact, these incidents happen
as a reminder to us all to pray, to CALL OUT. The Ribono Shel
Olam is waiting, like the King in the parable, to descend upon
us and grant our wishes. Most important of all, the Ribono Shel
Olam is waiting to rest His Shechinah upon us after such a prolonged
separation. However, there are conditions which have to be met.
We all know that the coming of Mashiach necessitates a tremendous
amount of Teshuvah, as the passuk says: U'vo Ltzion Go'el U'lshowvei
Peska - and to zion will come the redeemer and those who repent
One might innocently ask, "What is wrong with me? I am really
trying so hard. What more is wanted of me?"
Think of it from this perspective. Immediately after Purim, no
one would be slighted if asked if he/she intended to clean for
Pesach. This in no way insinuates that the home is not clean;
rather Pesach requires an additional level of cleanliness. By
the same token, in preparation for the redemption, we must make
a thorough examination of our deeds.
We live in exile, among non-Jews, and it is inevitable that some
of their ideals have discreetly seeped into our lifestyle. It
has come to a point that we can no longer identify them as foreign.
We say Tehillim from the depths of our hearts and we pray so many
tefillos, but due to the poison of foreign ideals that have seeped
into our thoughts and actions, we are tremendously inhibiting
our complete healing of the soul and impending our very much wanted
and needed geulah.
This can be more easily understood with the following parable:
There was a patient who was very ill. A very benevolent nurse
was cautiously administering very powerful medicine into the intravenous,
but to no avail. The patient wasn't improving. This was due to
the fact that a sinister nurse was putting drops of poison into
the same intravenous. We all know that a drop of poison goes a
long way. The non-Jewish ideals are POISON to the Yiddishe Neshama.
The sole purpose of this project is to point out some of the more
obvious poisons of this exile and to try to eradicate them from
our midst. We will then be injecting LIFE - giving support into
In his explanation on the exodus from Egypt. Sfas Emes attributes
the zechus for the exodus from Egypt and splitting of the red
sea to guarding ones tongue and to a high level of morality. In
the same way, these two tremendously important mitzvos can hasten
Yes, we are constantly given mussar on these subjects, and some
women find it difficult to hear anything about them anymore. Perhaps
if we understood the fundamentals of these subjects, we would
be able to fulfill them better.
The Ribono Shel Olam created a beautiful world. He put man into
His world as an object for His constant benevolence and kindness.
However, in order to receive that kindness, man must be a loyal
servant of the creator and leader of the world. A loyal servant
follows his Master's instructions implicitly, with great admiration
for his Master.
In other words, to receive Hashem's chessed, man is required to
subjugate his will to the Divine will. This is Tznius. Rachel
Imainu was called modest because she gave up her desire to be
married to a tzaddik for the benefit of her sister's honor. Thus,
tznius applies to many more things than modesty in dress. But
there, too, it is a matter of subjugating our will to the will
of H-shem. So much is dependent upon it!
When H-shem created man, He granted him a priceless gift, the
neshamah. In order for the neshama to function, Hashem placed
it into the human body. The purpose of the body is to serve the
needs of the neshamah. Placing emphasis on the body draws emphasis
away from the neshama. The neshama can grow to incomprehensible
heights, but it can also be damaged very easily. It is up to us
to care for our neshamos properly. The following points are insights
into the secrets of the neshamah. Some are heavy, some are lighter,
but all are important. Let us take them all to heart...
Two sources of severe damage to the neshama are a lack of tznius
and speaking lashon hora. Imagine a woman who has spent her lifetime
devoted to chessed. After 120 years she arrives in the Heavenly
court and discovers that she was storing her good deeds in a very
damaged vessel, and has nothing to show for all her efforts. Who
knows if a person who was not dressed properly or has spoken lashon
hora will even have a chance to bask in the divine light. These
two seas are distance Hashem in This World and in line with fitting
punishment, perhaps the soul will not be accepted by the divine
presence when it arrives in the world to come.
Imagine this: A king knocks on someone's door and he answers,
"Go away, you can't come in." What sort of welcome can
that person expect when he knocks at the palace gates?
This is what Chazal mean when they say that four groups of people
are not accepted before the Shechinah because they distance the
divine presence in this world due to their evil speech. The group
of people who lack tznius might Chas V'sholom be judged similarly,
since they, too, are distance the divine presence in this world.
How sad! How heartbreaking! Isn't it better for us to find this
out before we reach the heavenly court and the day of judgment.
2. A child wears a bib to protect his clothing. So too, tznius protects the neshamah. BIB stands for Beged Im Binah - clothing chosen with the understanding of what the neshamah needs. Certain clothing leaves the neshama stained, and these stains are hard to remove unless very abrasive methods are used.
3. The purpose of tznius'dik clothing is to make one appear pleasant in a quiet way. The sensitivity is a fine one. We were sent to galus to be a Model Nation, in every way. We must be careful to:
* Reject clothing which does not properly cover the elbow, knees and neckline in every position that a woman may be. Slits are FORBIDDEN. Hair must be fully covered.
* Avoid brightly colored or tight fitting clothing.
These laws, guiding counsel of our Rabbanim, are meant to insure
the modesty and dignity of a Bas Yisroel, as well as prevent the
jealousy of others.
Let us ask ourselves, do we always lift our hands in holiness
- even when our sleeves just reach our elbows and we stretch out
our arms to reach for something?
Is this how we will merit the third Bais Hamikdosh?
Holiness unlocks brachah. (Rabbi Matisyahu Salomon) We all need
brachah. Let us all make an effort to "lift our hands in
Halachos are there for all times, and may not be altered for the
latest styles. Tzinius is a halachah like all others, and lack
of it may even be more difficult to do teshuvah for, since it
involves making others stumble.
It is one of the most heartbreaking sights in all the years of
our trek in exile. Years ago and even today, when someone's slip
was seen, you would go over and very discreetly mention that you
are "slipping". The woman would then thank you and correct
the situation. Now we are trying to stop her from "slipping
spiritual levels." It's just unbelievable that she could
have a large slit in her skirt and the slip is sticking out and
she isn't ashamed. Is this not "slipping" in Heavenly
fear? And what is even worse is the many times her thigh is revealed.
Was she the one who on Yom Kippur banged on her heart for the
sin of G'lui aryaos. That is exactly what it is: the revelation
of the parts that a Jewish daughter must keep covered. When we
see this sight, it brings tears to our eyes. Consider this letter
as S.O.S. - Sew Our Slits. It will save many tragedies for Klal
yisroel.. Today, we are thanking her for complying. There will
be a day when she will thank us! She will be the ultimate benefactor
of her efforts of infusing holiness in our midst.
Today, we live in a time and in a country where the goyim treat
us kindly, Baruch Hashem. No one forces us to dress or act in
the way we do. Therefore, we must be especially careful not to
dress like the non-Jews, because what excuse will we have to exonerate
We must not forget that we live among amalek; reverse the letters
and you get am kal, a nation that takes things lightly. But we
must be careful not to take any halachos lightly, especially the
halachos of tznius.
When the redemption comes, imagine the embarrassment of those
who are not dressed properly. Picture this scene. The music is
playing and a father & mother lovingly escort their daughter
to the chupah when she notices she is still wearing her model's
coat. She has forgotten her white gown, the symbol of a kallah.
Imagine her embarrassment. So, too, when we appear at the grand
party for all the tzaddikim and tzidkaniyos from all the generations,
we will appear as we are dressed as we are today. (It's a "Come
as Who You Really Are" party.) Then we will realize that
we forgot to put on the symbol of the Bas Yisrael - her tznius.
This galus began because of baseless hatred, and it will end only
when we rectify this with shmiras halation. We all work on this
diligently, but perhaps with a few insights, we would be able
to subdue our yetzer hora more effectively.
Chazal state that this galus is a replica of the galus Mitzraim.
We are witnessing so many trying situations that can be described
only as mitzrayim - "metzorim" - narrow straits.
Umasbiah Z'chal chai Rotzon (Tehillim) "And He satisfies
every living creature." It's a plea to Hashem to grant each
person his wants and needs. Reverse the letters of rotzon, and
you have nitzor, the first word in the passuk N'tzor L'shosncha
marah, "Guard you tongue from speaking evil." Again,
our requests are conditional, contingent upon guarded speech.
Isn't it worth our while to please Hashem, so when we need something
(which is every moment of our lives), Hashem will grant our request?
Can we truly say that we can look the mitzvos of tznius and
shmiras halashon squarely in the eye and not be ashamed? Oz lo
aivosh B'habiti el kol mitevosecha (Tehillim 119) "I will
not be ashamed when I look at Your mitzvos."
If only we would control our mouths, and think before we speak,
we would merit the redemption to come upon us in a flash, k'heref
WARNING: It is of utmost importance to realize that sometimes
you must speak up especially when an injustice was done. In other
cases a few words of chizuk will bring renewed life to a person.
That is our task in life - to distinguish between when to speak
and when to remain silent.
We represent our Master in this world. We represent Torah and
kedushah to all who see us. Our actions have to be impeccable.
If we personify kedushah, everyone will imitate us, whether it
is in tznius, shmiras halashon, or just plain ehrlichkeit. Torah
learning has a medicinal effect on the neshamah, but not acting
properly makes all the learning worthless.
The foundation of a Yid is his middos. A foundation of a building
must be secure in order that each additional floor will be properly
supported, otherwise, the building will collapse and all the work
will have been for naught.
Rav Segal, ztl, always emphasized this concept. He would say:
"A person can know the entire Torah, he can perform awesome
righteous deeds for the sake of Heaven, and he can aspire to attain
lofty height of spiritual achievement. He can attain all of this
and still sink to the abyss of sin and self-destruction if he
does not cleanse his soul of middos ra'os. A thirst for honor,
lust, wealth, or any other negative yearning can destroy even
the greatest of people. Even one negative trait is enough to destroy
the vessel that holds all one's spiritual possessions. It can
be compared to someone who invests in the stock market and is
very, very successful. Then he invests all his earnings in one
bad stock and is wiped out.
Z'kan aharov sheyoraid al pi midosav (Tehillim) Let us translate
it as follows: "The beard of Aharon which reaches his mouth
and his middos." A beard, or shaitel, only has value if it
is connected to a pleasant speaking mouth and an abundance of
beautiful middos, to a person who is a true mentch.
Invest in IBM - Ich Bin a Mentch. A mentch is someone whose actions
Hashem is proud of; someone whose actions create a raiach ni'chdach,
"a pleasant aroma." Our deeds should take the place
of the k'tores which atoned for Klal yisroel yom kippur.
Someone who is not completely ehrlich ches u'sholom in his business
transactions is taking a chance of running up a charge account
in heaven, where interest rates are very high.
If you owe someone money, make a point of returning it. If you
run short of cash in a store and borrow from a friend, do not
let it slip your mind. Write it down. If you borrow something
from a neighbor, make sure you return it.
MOST OF ALL - Be sure to be molhel one another. Y'hallelu
Sh'mo B'molhol. One of the greatest admittance of a person's submission
to his Master, the Hashe is to forgive another for the sake of
bringing peace to His Kingdom. Let's not bear the slightest ill
will to one another to merit to happiness. If we divide the word
simcha- to erase from our hearts any grievances towards another
Yid, there will always be simcha by Yidden and we will merit to
the Kiyum of the posur mochis k'uv p'shaecho u'chonon chatosecha.
We are a generation that is known for chesed par excellence. It
is sometimes overwhelming to see such acts of kindness. Can it
be humans and not angels who perform chesed above and beyond our
ability to comprehend and with such msiras nefesh? Every one of
us is a precious soul who would do anything for another Yid. Today,
one of the greatest chasodim that we can do for one another is
to be dressed blicousha and not find fault with one another so
that the soton can not be mekatreg on klal yisroel. We will be
judged purely with midas horachamim.
Let us feel for one another. To be honest, no one can really feel
the anguish and pain of one who has afflictions. Let us try our
best never to hurt someone else's feelings. Many times, we just
want to be cute or sometimes we are just plain nosey and we say
or ask things that shouldn't be said or asked. We sometimes can
hurt someone so badly that the hurt remains for a lifetime. We
in turn, can't even imagine that we did anything wrong. We see
in the words Tfilah t'fillin, the word pil tfilos must be said
with - (feel) - feelings in order to be accepted. The basis of
all our actions has to be with feeling bau odom lamokom and bain
odom lachaveiro. This is the basis on which we should base all
of our deeds to be very successful.
We have spent much time, effort, and resources on this project,
and we hope you understand why. We want you to get this message
quickly and thoroughly. We all are part of klal yisroel and we
want all of merit to the final redemption klal yisroel.
In addition, since we are all part of one entity, all of our actions
are judged collectively (and individually). However, there are
certain individuals who are chosen to be guarantors for the nation.
A slit exposing the leg weighs heavily on the heavenly scale.
Who will pay for it? I don't want to, and I'm sure you don't either.
Let us be cautious that our guarantors won't have to pay either.
In times gone by, when a person spoke lashon hora, he or his possessions
were smitten with tzoraas, leprosy. Reverse the main letters of
tzoraas, and you get tzaar, troubles, which, unfortunately, there
is plenty of today.
When a talmid chacham has tzaar and afflictions it atores for
the whole community in which he resides. Wouldn't it be better
if we would practice atzar withholding ourselves from forbidden
speech to remove all tzaar?
In Mitzraim, Hashem heard the cries of the Jewish people and redeemed
them. What was it about their cries that prompted the geulah?
It was the cries of the yidden who said, "We can no longer
bear to see our brethren suffer," that brought about a speedy
We too, find ourselves b'aimek habocho, in the valley of tears.
Let us cry out in unison to Hashem to take us back as His chosen
nation. Let these insights pierce our hearts, and let us rectify
anything which might not be perfect.
Again, we wrote this only to MEND, not to OFFEND anyone. Our greatest
reward will be when we will all be together on that awesome day,
on which yogon, agony, will change to nigun, song; negam, plague
will change to oneg delight; pesha , sin will change to shefa,
bounty; and machalo, illness, will change to chemlo, mercy.
May we all merit that by mending our ways, the coming year should
bring everlasting brachah, and the word focus, exile will become
Signed with tears,
hazorim bdimah b'rinah yiictzoro
"He who sows with tears, will reap with rejoicing."
The Committee of Concerned Citizens for Kedushas Yisrael
a/k/a Your Loving Sisters
P.urest S.incerity - We beg you from the depths of our hearts
to follow the above implicitly, not deviating even slightly. Imagine
if you bake a cake for a very special occasion, you would be cautious
not to change even the slightest ingredient. So the next time
you reach for your siddur or tehillim make sure you are always
dressed bikoushah and your speech is under scrutiny. Then, you
are GUARANTEED that the holy letters of our prayers, uttered with
fervent kovonos, will reach the kisai hakovod and will be poel
yeshvos for each and every Yid. Amen!